It all begins with an innocent wearing of your clothes without your permission to spending money for two like you are relatives or something. Thing is roommates are horrible. If you don’t have the money to upgrade to a single room, then you have to deal with the fact that this is going to be your life for another three to four years. Acceptance is the best remedy for any stressing predicament you find yourself in, no use ranting about what you can’t change. What you have to master are the ways to deal with this delight of a roommie, and here are some pointers you can take to heart.
Kill them with kindness
Never under any circumstances let any bad blood brew for long between the two of you. People are from different backgrounds and so pissing off the wrong person may prove to be hell on earth while at campus. So, act coy, ensure to have a civilized relationship with clear laid out rules on how you should operate. You don’t have to be friends but making an enemy out of someone with access to your toothbrush isn’t a good idea. Pick your battles.
Fight fire with fire
I’m not saying you should discard the first point but you have to stand up for yourself. Do not find yourself in a situation where you are the push over, it’s always hard to bounce back after that categorization, so avoid it. Play loud music today, then I will host a party in the room the next day. It’s like a medium of respect. People have a sense of respect for those who are always up for a challenge and stand up for themselves.
Ensure a mutual respect between the two of you
If you are being disrespectful to one another, chances are you are going to cross paths a whole lot. I know respect isn’t given but earned, but in this case be the bigger person and give it. Don’t have your wifey over before telling your roommie, don’t touch people’s stuff without asking, and don’t have your friends over and have them be in your roommates space. Basically treat him/her like you would like to be treated.
Keep a close eye
Treat your random roommate like he/she is a USSR spy and you the American spy from the 40’s. It’s a crazy messed up world with equally messed up characters in it. People are at campus for different reasons. You get too comfortable and before you know it, the roommie from hell has bedded your man and she is pregnant. Your jealousy senses should be on high alert, people be thirsty.
Hide all your valuables
If you can avoid a hurricane, you avoid it. There’s no point in placing your fancy Rolex on the table yet you can keep it in your case locked up. Keep the thieves at bay, do not expose your knickers and bras on the peg…. yes some girls are into stealing underwear, it’s sadly a thing. All that you hold dear shouldn’t be paraded around, leave that for the holidays when you are amidst people you trust.
These pointers aren’t anything phenomenal. It’s just basic common sense on how to operate around people, however we tend to forget our values and rules that rule the world. Three years isn’t an eternity and you may actually be lucky enough to find a best friend in a roommie, you just have to keep it real.
Till then , the lane watches over the young freshers.